How to get “motivated”

Set a goal that is slightly outside of your comfort zone. 

  • You should feel intimidated by your goal. If it’s too easy, you won’t work as hard for it. Stop trying to feel comfortable all the time. Change is not easy and it doesn’t usually feel good. So what? 

Establish a clear WHY for your goal. 

  • Why is it so important that you achieve it? Your why is the fuel that will light a fire under your ass and get you in the gym at 4:30am. Know it. Connect to it. Use it daily. 

Create a tentative plan for your goal.

  • List all of the steps you’ll need to take to achieve it. Be flexible because plans can change but keep yourself focused on what you want and why you want it. Avoid changing up your plan every week simply because you’re bored or impatient. 

Get support. 

  • Hire a coach, find an accountability buddy, ask your spouse to lend a hand. Surround yourself with like-minded people who won’t coddle you. Stay away from negative people who refuse to support you or who constantly complain. 

Set a deadline for reaching your goal. 

  • Write it on your calendar so there is no confusion. This will keep you focused and on track. 

Become aware of the story you tell yourself about who you are and why you’re capable of. 

  • If your story limits you in any way, change it. You hold the pen. Your self-talk will elevate you to levels you never imagined or it will destroy you completely. 

Stop making excuses. 

  • As soon as you begin rattling off all the reasons you can’t do something, immediately find two solutions. Your excuses are all bullshit and they’re keeping you in a mental prison. There is no viable reason to neglect your health and wellbeing. Ever. 

If you can’t find the time to workout, meal prep and prioritize your health, do a time audit.

  • Make a list of everything you do from the time you wake up in the morning until the time you go to bed at night. You’ll discover you have several hours in the day when you stop scrolling aimlessly on social media and watching hours of Netflix. 

Keep promises to yourself. 

  • If you make an appointment to go to the gym on aa specific day at a specific time, protect that time and fucking go no matter what. Every time you break a promise to yourself, your confidence takes a hit. Start with small things and work up to big things. Put yourself first.